Perficient’s newest ERG, PRISM, kicked off the summer with vibrant celebrations and important conversations surrounding Pride and the LGBTQIA+ community. A key event this year was our “Pronouns 101”, an enlightening and empowering session focused on understanding and respecting the diverse identities within our community.
Pronouns 101 provided attendees and viewers with a comprehensive understanding of pronouns and their significance in fostering a respectful and welcoming environment for everyone.
The session began by reviewing a detailed explanation of what pronouns are and why they matter. We discussed the importance of using the correct pronouns to show respect and acknowledgement of each individual.
One of the key points was the use of neo-pronouns such as xe, ze, and even they. Gender neutral pronouns have been in use since at least the 1800’s with the singular use of “they” going back to the 14th century.
Some of the best practices reviewed focused on three key elements: share, ask, and don’t assume. The best thing we can do as leaders is to normalize introductions of pronouns by introducing ourselves with pronouns. For example, “Hi, my name is Nicole, and I use she/they pronouns”.
Leaders can take things a step further by making this a standard part of introductions with new teams. This helps ensure everyone is included and feels seen and heard.
So, what happens if you make a mistake?
Mistakes happen, we all say the wrong thing sometimes. The best thing to do when you make a mistake is apologize and move on.
If you’re thinking, what else can I do, here are some great options!
Remember that acknowledging and using correct pronouns shows that we value everyone and helps create a more welcoming environment.
Be mindful of gendered phrases. We often use gendered phrases like “Hey guys” and “Welcome ladies and gentlemen”. These phrases can make individuals feel ostracized or undervalued. Some great alternatives are using phrases like “Hey all”, “Welcome everyone”, and “Great work team” are just some examples of alternatives.
Remember that using the correct pronouns helps affirm identity, validates individual experiences, and can significantly impact a person’s sense of belonging and safety.
Using correct pronouns is more than a matter of grammar; it’s about recognizing and affirming each person’s identity. It is a simple yet powerful way to show respect and create a sense of belonging. By making a conscious effort to use correct pronouns, we contribute to a more inclusive and accepting society.
The Pronouns 101 event was a fitting conclusion to Pride Month, reinforcing the values of acceptance, understanding, and respect. As we move forward, let us carry the lessons learned and continue to advocate for inclusivity in our daily lives. By embracing and respecting each other’s identities, we build a stronger, more united community.
